My mother told me, repeatedly, throughout my childhood: “You’d be perfect if you didn’t have a mouth.” I was the kid who tried to negotiate everything—bedtime, curfew, chores, allowance for said chores. The trait annoyed my mother, but it built the foundation of my career. Most girls grow up hearing some version of what I
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The moment I knew something had to change did not arrive as a revelation. It was a slow creep that ended with me sitting in my car on a Tuesday morning, in my office parking lot, for eleven minutes, giving myself a pep talk before I could make myself walk in. I was not failing.
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You open your phone for a quick break. Next thing you know, you’ve ordered something that felt like a gift to yourself in the moment, but you don’t really remember choosing it. When it arrives, you’re not sure why you bought it, and now it’s another chore to deal with. I’m hearing this from clients,
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Some hiring managers skip cover letters entirely. Others read every word to fill gaps left by a resume. When a recruiter is on the fence about a candidate, a cover letter can tip the decision in your favor. Skip it, and you leave your outcome to chance. In this job market, you need every tool
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Just to clarify, in case anyone is still debating whether this exists: women are held to a different standard. That standard follows us everywhere. At work. At home. In politics. In leadership. In the media. A woman is expected to be competent but not intimidating, confident but not arrogant, ambitious but not selfish, attractive but
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I talk with a lot of job seekers, and too often they come to me exhausted and depleted, not because the market is impossible, but because they’re making the same avoidable mistakes. I first compiled this list in 2024, and while job searching has evolved (sometimes it feels like it changes month to month), these
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If you want something done, ask a busy person. – Benjamin Franklin Every time I hear this, I shake my head. Why does the busy person get punished with more work? Maybe Franklin assumed the busy man had an even busier wife holding everything together, like he did. When Franklin worked overseas, his wife Deborah
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Most people hear about gratitude and think of making a list of things to appreciate. The practice sounds simple, and the science behind it is strong. Researchers Dr. Robert A. Emmons at UC Davis, Michael McCullough and Christopher Oveis at UC San Diego, and The Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley have studied gratitude
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